Daze Gone By

Do you remember the daze,
the long nights in a haze?
Did it serve to amaze,
Or tempt your mind to a craze?

Coming of own and into the night,
You prepare to take flight.
On the twinkling lights,
Queen-bees passage to indoctrinate right.

Lollipops flying;
Monkey man dying;
Liberation calling;
White girls balling.

Line ups in a circle.
Girls are turning purple.
Boys feeling cynical.
Things are getting clinical.

Oh remember the daze,
though the thoughts falling haze?
We were riding all the waves,
out of a circular craze.

Does it ever really change;
Though the age has such a range?
Mind and heart are in exchange,
somehow now it all seems strange.

We all were running up the hill;
The chase to top to get your fill.
The clock it ticks the time a pill;
To get you fast or stop the will.

Always twisting in the dance;
The budding love a new romance.
Were you stole to take a chance;
or just a move to see advanced?

Innocence gone,
Long nights by dawn.
The knight to capture of the pawn,
Will leave you crying on the lawn.

Flying high upon a wish,
Now they all are dropping dish.
A waterless fish;
Down in a swish.

Seems all so long,
but not all of wrong,
Through it all remaining strong,
A breakthrough comes to sing the song.

I remember the daze;
Came through the haze.
No longer living in a craze;
How Tempting Life, continues to amaze.

How About The Flip Side?

This morning I was reminded of how important perception is to the way we live in this world together. I was tuned into a local radio show when a listener called in to ask a question of the shows staff about his upcoming nuptial name dilemma. His fiance wanted her name to be altered by keeping her last name as a middle name and adding his name last. This was accepted almost unanimously with the listening audience.

Now for the twist, she asked that he do the same; use her middle name and his last name. My initial thought was, if you feel compelled to change your name for nuptial sake, what a great compromise! However, my thought process seemed lost in translation.

I was astonished at the reactions and response to this question. The male audience response was overwhelmingly negative. Admittedly in retrospect, I didn't find this part so shocking. However, I found the female response astonishing! Apparently these women were suffering a knee-jerk reaction to the perceived mentality of an archaic mindset pre-programed years earlier. A myriad of responses from women callers came in which included such un-reasoned responses as, "no, because she is setting a precedence of wearing the pants and him wearing the skirt" (aka, you're 1950's response); to "it will cause problems for him by having to change his documents" (poor him, as if she doesn't have to do the same); to "just do it, no one will know" (the ethical response?); to "the man doesn't do that,(the just cause clause); and "it's not accepted"(the pre-programed archaic mind-set robotic response). As I sat there utterly stunned at these responses, it made me wonder, how far have we come? Or, perhaps the better question, how far have we yet to go? It was looking as if the answer to these question were, not very far, and a long way baby!

So ladies, what's up? We profess the desire for equality among the masses, yet we still insist on robbing ourselves of our identity to satisfy the needs of others? Are we willing to give away our individualism without analyzing and formulating a reasonable response? This general "acceptance" of nuptial name swapping was deemed "appropriate" in a "man" made world of rules and regulations many years ago. Let's face it, it stood for your father passing ownership of you to ownership of your husband! I don't know about you, but the only one I want to be owned by is me! Now don't get me wrong, in the spirit of free choice, if taking on your man's name is what you want, more power to you! Been there, done that, when I was young and under the control of the masses; just keep the options open for the rest of the "free" thinking world without judgmental pre-dispositions!

So, what are habits? Habits are tricky little mind control programs. Are we able to reboot and re-create our controls? Amazingly, yes we can! As we have created social habits, so too can we re-create them to meet a new criteria of modern day living. Repetitive thought patterns processed at a conscious level form patterns that embed into our subconscious mind. In turn, this sub-conscious action causes us to act or perform these thought habits without reason. If we begin to re-think and reason through why we have these archaic thought patterns, it stands to reason, we can begin to change them and refresh or reboot our programed behaviors to a new standard of living. Sustaining life with new growth potential allows the perception of endless possibilities that will manifest within us. This manifestation creates the perception of our new reality. So you see, freedom of choice is within your grasp. Keeping an open mind will allow you to not only accept your choice, but accept the choice of others.

WOW Women Unite!

Women Of the World Unite! I've been focusing on how WOW women really are! Not to deny or exclude the fact that there are some wonderful men as well, but, I'm not a man! What I've learned is that if we learn to be true to ourselves, we can lead our lives to wonderful new opportunities! Creativity flows freely, your spirit soars and life becomes effortless. Being true to yourself can open doors, open windows, and allow you to live the life you were destined to live.

It is very easy to get caught up in this thing we called life. There are mixed messages everywhere! We fall into routines, mold and conform into habits, and before long we are moving on auto pilot. What is important to remember is to give ourselves permission to stop and smell the roses! Give yourself the gift of time. Schedule you on your calendar! I know what you’re thinking, "easier said than done," I get it! I've uttered that thought many times, but, understand, time is a precious commodity that needs to be CEASED and LIVED! Remind yourself; YOU ARE WORTH IT! Take time to think about who you are BENEATH the routine of the day, BENEATH the care taking, the money making, the bill paying, and the ultra responsible living you! Visit and nurture yourself! Ask yourself, what makes you happy? What is your dream? DARE TO DREAM IT! Too often we forget to think about us? As women, we easily pre-occupy our lives in keeping those around us happy. Our children, spouses, significant others, friends, co-workers, you name it, everyone else comes first! MAKE YOU FIRST! At least for a MOMENT! Try this, marry yourself first, parent yourself, be-friend yourself, promise to Never Leave You and to Always Be There for You! HUG yourself; LOVE yourself, and LAUGH OUT LOUD! Celebrate with other WOW Women; remind each other of how wonderfully marvelously WOW each of you are!


The bottom line is ladies, if you look in the mirror and don't like what you see; RE-INVENT! You are the creator of your DREAM, the maker of your MOMENTS, the LOVER in your LIFE! Don't wait for someone else to deliver you the goods, package them up and send them to yourself, with a BIG RED BOW! Start with your thoughts! Share your happy thoughts of you with yourself, open up the window and let the negative thoughts escape! Take off the dark glasses and let the SUNSHINE IN! Remind yourself everyday how WOW you are! Surround yourself with other sunshine souls and shine like the stars you are! Reach out your hand for help and extend your other hand to help others! You'd be surprised at the hands coming back to you. Make Time..Take Time..GIVE TIME!

So often we say and feel we are trapped, or stuck, and can't change BECAUSE..... REMOVE BECAUSE. LOOK into the Light..or Dark? If you truly want to change, it may come at a price. The choice is yours to make. When you explore it, you may discover you already have what you want. If not CHANGE IT! Clinging to Comfortable will only leave you feeling EMPTY. Empty doesn't feel comfortable. Remember mistakes are OK. They equate to our Lessons of Life. They connect us to who we are and who we really are meant to become. MAKE MISTAKES, lots of them... you will only GROW more WOW with each one! The empty hole can only be filled by discovering you. You are enough; you are always ALL you need. Discover your WOW! Life is GROWTH. Grow and Learn, Live and Love, and above all remember how Wonderfully Awesome and WOW You Are! Oh and don't forget to Laugh at Yourself. Laugh till you cry and cry till you Laugh and above all REMEMBER....EVERYDAY MATTERS!